As a wedding calligrapher, I of course love all things paper related. So when it comes to invitations, one of the things I hear the most is “I don’t want to spend money on invitations, people will just throw it away.” Or, “I want to spend my money where it matters.” I know I’m biased, but that just makes me cringe every time I hear it!
Of course people will throw away a bad invitation. I have been the recipient of some very unfortunate looking wedding stationery, and I didn’t keep it. But I’ve also received some very beautiful wedding invitations, and have kept those long after the wedding took place!
For full transparency, I WAS that bride! My husband and I had a whirlwind romance, and a super short (4.5 month) engagement. There just wasn’t a lot of time for invitation design; I needed to get invitations out ASAP!
But looking back, it’s actually one of my regrets about my wedding. I look at my invitations (I only had one left and I don’t even have one of the response cards anymore!) and wish I had cared more about how they looked. At the time, I picked something that I thought was pretty, was inexpensive, and could get done within a few weeks of ordering them. Looking at them now, I realize that they don’t at all fit the theme or the feel of our wedding. The colors and style are completely different from the vision I had of what I wanted my wedding to look like. From the invitations, the menus, the place cards, the thank you notes, it was all a disjointed mess of uncoordinated pieces that I rushed to put together for our quickly approaching wedding.
And if you’re on a tight deadline or budget, that’s OK (hello semi-custom suites!)! There are so many options for your wedding stationery that will fit your personality and wedding perfectly, and I wish I had known about them when I got married!
And your invitations should make your guests excited to go to your wedding! A well designed invitation suite can make your guests go from “*sigh* I guess we should go* to “we are definitely NOT missing this!” At the end of your wedding, the only keepsakes from your wedding your guests will keep is the program and the invitation. If I knew then what I know now, I would have realized that these pieces of paper would be the things I would want to put in my wedding album and keep forever, not just throw them away at the end of the wedding day.
So remember, your wedding invitations are the first way to show your guests that you are invested in your wedding, and most importantly, your marriage! The more your personality shines through your wedding stationery, the more excited your guests will be to celebrate with you, so spend a little time thinking about what you want to communicate to your guests, and find a stationer who can bring your vision to life!
Stay tuned for the next part in the Stationery 101 series!
One of the biggest reasons that I think wedding stationery is important, is that it’s the very first impression you make on your guests about what your wedding is going to be like! Have you ever received a beautifully addressed, elegant envelope in the mail and immediately wanted to know what was in it? That’s what you can give your guests when they pull your invitation out of their mailbox.
Your invitations give you a chance to set the tone of what your wedding will be like. Will it be a casual affair, with a simple, colorful invitation? Or will it be an extravagant weekend-long affair, with heavy, letter pressed invitations in a silk lined box and crystal brooch? This is your first chance to tell your guests what to expect. This is something that my own wedding invitations did not do. Your invitations should fit the theme and feel of your wedding. A good stationer will be able to work with you to incorporate the same feel through your wedding day stationery and décor, and thank you notes that you send after the wedding. You don’t want your guests to show up at the ceremony and think “is this the right wedding?” By incorporating the same colors and textures into your programs, menus, and place cards, it creates a cohesive theme to your wedding day that begins with your invitations.
The most obvious reason you need invitations, of course, is that it tells people the information they need to know. Not just the when and where, but also what to pack, what to wear, who is invited, and what other events will take place during the wedding weekend.